Asking for help can be incredibly challenging. It exposes vulnerability, forcing us to admit we can’t solve something on our own—at least not as quickly or easily as we’d like. There’s a discomfort in this, especially if you’re used to handling things independently. Personally, I have often taken the solo route to solving a problem or finishing a project, taking much more time than needed to save myself this discomfort.

But growth often comes through embracing discomfort—and the same holds true in asking for help.

It’s also important to remember that nobody can do it all alone. We all need a helping hand at some point, and admitting that you need support is a sign of resilience, not weakness. It shows you’re willing to grow, learn from others, and prioritize progress over pride.

Two Reasons To Ask For Help More Often

Evidently, once someone is willing to help and you are past the discomfort of asking, I bet we’ve all experienced how nice it is to be helped by someone else with more experience or time. But there are two more reasons to ask for help more often.

1. Most People Enjoy Helping

When you ask for help, you’re opening yourself up to others, which can be intimidating. It forces you to acknowledge that you’re stuck, which is difficult, especially when you’d prefer to seem capable and in control. But here’s the thing: asking for help allows someone else to step in and contribute, and most people enjoy being asked for help. Think about it: when someone asks for your assistance, it’s a kind of compliment. It shows they trust you, value your knowledge or skills, and are willing to rely on you for guidance.

2. You’re Building a Support Network

Additionally, by seeking help, you’re not just speeding up your own problem-solving process; you’re fostering a connection with others. When you allow others to assist you, you build a support network, and in return, you may become more open to helping others in the future. It’s a cycle that strengthens relationships, deepens trust, and promotes growth for both parties involved.

Encourage Others To Ask For Help

A while ago, I asked a dear friend for help. I don’t recall what I needed help with, but I remember his response after I thanked him: “Thank you for allowing me to help you.” It reminded me that helping isn’t just a favor—it’s a joy for both parties.

By acknowledging the benefit for the helper, you make asking easier. Personally, I often feel like I owe a favor in return, but focusing on the helper’s experience strengthens the relationship without expectations—though, of course, I’d gladly help my friend when I get the chance 😉.

Get Ready To Be Helped

So, the next time you’re stuck or struggling, take a deep breath and ask for help. It will save you time and frustration, AND you’ll also be offering someone else the opportunity to step up and make a difference. Asking for help is a key part of growth—both for you and those who help you 🫴🏽🌱

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